I was sitting at work and overheard a man on the phone to his kid…dad said, “Don’t cry.”
And I would say, “um, why not?” Who says we can’t cry if we feel like cryin! We often try to stop someone from crying, don’t we? Our best intention is to make them feel better, so we want to stop their tears. But what we might not understand is that their emotion needs to come out. If it doesn’t come out, the junk will get stuck inside. And it does get stuck! Think about how many people hold their stress, their tears, grief, fear, even joy and laughter sometimes. Day after day, over and over, we hold our true selves back. Over time this manifests in the body then there can be serious health problems like maybe a heart attack, high blood pressure, or high cholestorol.
Ayurveda says, “Do not resist your urges.” How many times have you held in a sneeze? How many times did you have to pee but you “held it” til the meeting was over? How many times did someone hurt you, but you didn’t say anything because you didn’t want to cause a conflict. And then over time you ended up exploding at them over something small because these old emotions were festering?
Our urges (sneezing, crying, laughing, elimination, speaking our mind) are signals from our body that something needs to be released. If we don’t listen to those subtle signals, our bodies will speak louder, if we still don’t listen, they will form physical problems within the body. And then we are forced to listen.
If we nip the urges in the bud right away, there is no build up and there is no disease. So let’s honor these signals. Our bodies talk to us all the time. So if we feel it, then we should be it.