I’m intuitive and also like a sponge in that I absorb energy from others. I have real empathy for what other people experience and get overwhelmed very quickly. Is this a typical vata quality or is it more complicated than that?
Empathy…vatas don’t “carry” other people’s emotions like a kapha will, but vatas are super receptive (subtle quality) and can pick up on subtle energies. And they are easily bothered by it. Therefore, they are easily affected by other people because they are easily influenced. Yeah? So maybe not so much empathy (that is kapha) but influenced and affected by others’ emotions which can make a vata feel powerless (weak) and anxious (worry about future).
When other peoples’ negative energy is swirling around you, the key is to hold your own energetic space. Otherwise you could end up with an energetic hangover or, as someone once told me, “their vibrational soup.” To avoid hangovers and soup, here are a couple ideas on how to listen without absorbing somebody else’s sludge:
Idea 1: I like to visualize a BRIGHT pink light over the top of my head, almost like an umbrella or jelly fish or shower cap. And it dumps/glows pink light on me – and as it goes down, it severs ALL ties and strings to anyone who is holding my energy. Then I visualize an opening in the top of my head where I let light in. Light pours in the opening and it builds my energy/glow back up from my toes all the way up through the top of my head until I am full of my own energy. You can practice this every evening or whenever you feel you need it. Dang, I wish I could draw that! Maybe that’s a painting waiting to happen, hey?
Idea 2: You can also visualize a GIANT rose (pick your favorite color! maybe it even sparkles) in front of you. Giant! Like big enough to cover your whole bod. And as people complain to you, let their complaints fall into the rose petals so it doesn’t get to you. Listen while they talk of course, but use the rose as a barrier.
Overall, – Let them go through whatever they are going through, but it does not have to turn into your energy. Give them a silent blessing that they make it through their struggle, lessons learned and a bright outcome. Something like so, “This is part of their path, not mine. I don’t have to absorb it. Blessings and love to them, I know they will figure it out and be better for it.”
Let me know if this helps! Or share this with someone else you think who might need it. xo!