Kapha’s Vices

Kapha’s Vices

You ready? Ready for kapha’s vices? If you haven’t read about vata’s vices or pitta’s vices, I recommend doing so. Unless of course, you are a kapha. Then you can skip those and read on because the spotlight is on you, baby. By vices, I mean stuff that you reach for that is opposite of what you need for optimal health.

You see, when a dosha is increased (imbalanced), the person will crave the foods and habits that keep increasing that dosha! Meaning, they will crave the completely wrong things. When we analyze our sweet kapha friends they are happy-go-lucky, inviting, generous, the best listeners (and huggers!), able to handle a lot of work with grace, peaceful minded, and a curvy goddess-like physique. Kaphas can also be stubborn and impossible to move, can gain weight easily, have depression (though you probably wouldn’t be able to tell), tend toward emotional eating, and if pushed too far they will hold a grudge.

When I see a kapha person who’s skin looks dull/gray, their normally graceful gait has turned into a slow saunter, and their large sparkling eyes have lost their luster, perhaps hiding behind some extra weight, it tells me a lot. In that case, our gracious beauties, our treasured precious kaphas, have an imbalance. Kaphas are very private and don’t often let their vices or weaknesses show, so observing their habits is not as easy as with a vata or pitta. However, when a kapha looks lifeless, we know there’s a problem.

Please note! Just because someone is overweight does not mean they are a kapha! They might have a kapha imbalance, but are not necessarily kapha by nature.

In my observation, an imbalanced kapha craves: Heavy “comfort” foods, very sugary sweet foods, high salt and high fat foods. They will also watch a lot of TV (or play online games) and spend lots of time alone. They also…collect things.

The kapha vice-rites (vice favorites) all increase heaviness, wetness, and slow them down. Notice the foods have no spices? Imbalanced kaphas will crave meals like mac n’ cheese, pasta with cream sauces, cheesecake, which all increase the damp and heavy qualities. Kaphas are also  self-proclaimed couch potatoes and will watch tv for hours and hours. Because kaphas are so giving, they tend to put themselves dead last which leaves them feeling emotionally depleted. To make up it, they might fill up on the wrong things which includes wrong foods and wrong entertainment.

Kaphas love to watch others and live vicariously a little bit, so television and online games allows them a peek inside other fascinating worlds from the comfort of their own couch (they don’t like to move or take risks!). If kaphas spend too much time alone, they will get depressed. They thrive off the energy of others and need buddies to keep them uplifted! If you have a kapha friend (or if it’s you) who’s a bit blue, take them for a walk in nature and they gain back the happy spring in their step. Now, another thing, the kaphas…they also…collect things. They will buy stuff in multiples even if they don’t need it. They can be hoardy! They like to shop and they like to have things, but it’s way better for them to live light. Physical heaviness creates mental, emotional, and spiritual heaviness as well.

Okay! Now that we understand what kapha’s vices are, let’s love up some of their virtues!

Kapha’s Virtues

In my observation, a balanced kapha craves: Spicy foods, fresh home-cooked meals, an evening or morning walk, the company of others.

When kaphas eat the right foods and are in total balance, they are the hostess with the mostess. They cater and cook for others but it doesn’t drag them down because they also know to take time for themselves. A balanced kapha will crave spices because fire heats the up and gives them gusto! They love it! Their thick hair shines, their skin radiates in perfect dewy fashion, they smile all the time (aaall the time), and move like a graceful swan.

By listening, they inspire others to follow their craziest dreams while kaphas watch with admiration and anticipation. Kaphas enjoy a simple diet full of fresh foods and despite popular belief, they don’t eat a lot. Balanced kapha realizes they feel lighter with less food, they might even skip dinner or breakfast sometimes, which allows their sluggish digestion to catch up from the last meal. If I saw a curvy gal with apple cheeks, thick wavy hair, big sparkley teeth, eyelashes that go for days, and dressed to perfection, I would know she’s a balanced kapha.

What do you think, kaphas? Does this sound like you? I know you’re shy, but we would love to hear from you :) xoxo!

20 Responses to Kapha’s Vices

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  3. Niamh Kane says:

    Great article Monica you absolutely nailed it! I love your suggestion for when a kapha feels down to surround her/himself with a buddy out in nature… I always find this the easiest transition for me out of a kapha low back into my flow!

  4. Tina says:

    exactly me. i sometimes get tired of hearing you smile a lot… i don’t realize i do, but is that a bad thing? & this makes me feel better about skipping meals, mostly breakfast. i like feeling light (simply NOT bloated), & i hate feeling bloated. i am often feeling heavy in the stomach, which is not by the amount that i ate, but too much salt or other toxic ingredient & then i feel airy, tight… very uncomfortable. early light dinners help a lot! when i do this, i feel more regular & i lose weight. it is just hard to keep up, but i believe i will eventually get the hang of it.

  5. Though I’m becoming more and more of a yogi, I just discovered Ayurvedic philosophy, and I just discovered that I’m a Kapha. This fits me perfectly—all of it!—and it is so comforting to see who I am and many of my struggles written down and explained. I can’t wait to learn more and restore balance to my dosha! Thank you so much for your help!

    Smiles and all the best,

  6. Jem says:

    Hello, Monica! I have a question, or well, a few questions. :P First, is it possible to be an underweight Kapha? Or an underweight Vata-Kapha or Pitta-Kapha? See, I feel that I’ve been so imbalanced for a long time and am confused as to what my prakruti is. All these quizzes tell me I’m either Pitta-Vata or Vata-Pitta, and it seems pretty accurate as for now and most recent years. Thinking back into my earlier years, I feel that I was more Kapha, but this may only be due to my over consumption of dairy (I found out to be intolerant to milk!) and was in Kapha years. Then, it makes me wonder if maybe I’m tridoshic! I no longer know what my constitution is and have lost my intuition in telling me.

    • Monica says:

      Hi Jem! Yeah, you’re not alone. It took me about 2 years to figure out that I was a solid vata-pitta combo (almost even!) because when I started Ayurveda, I was highly highly vata. But the more I asked myself questions about who I was in highschool and before life spun me out of vata control, I realized I had way more pitta in me than I thought. My advise for now, is to be the learner and the observer. You do not have to draw a conclusion quickly. Learn about the doshas – observe how you act/react/think and then compare that to…”Have I always been like this?” Your questions to yourself will give you more answers than a quiz will :) Or if you want, we can have a mini bud skype session so I can see you and ask some questions and put you on the right path :) xo

  7. My goodness me… you just described me so well I thought maybe we had met :)
    Recently I have been imbalanced. Craving the foods you mentioned, gave up my daily walk for the last 2 months so my “curvy goddess-like physique” is feeling heavy, being alone and watching LOADS of TV…. LOADS :)

    Today I looked into Ayurveda, did a quiz and discovered I am a Kapha in body and mind. Looked up Kapha and found you through an image on your blog.

    I believe I may have finally found a system that I can use to help bring me back to 100% health. Thank you for the inspiration.

    • Monica says:

      Hey Diane! :) We didn’t meet in person, but in spirit we must have :) Ahhhh…welcome to self discovery through Ayurveda my friend. If your heart felt open, hopeful, and tears came to your eyes, you’re on track. That’s what happened to me when I first found Ayurveda. Welcome! Have fun perusing the site and stop by often to ask questions. Flourish on and revisit the habits that make you feel good. You’ll get back to feeling goddess-like in no time :)

  8. Cajeta says:

    I love reading your posts on the doshas, they are so descriptive! I am a predominant Kapha and this description fits me so much, except for being a good dresser. I feel embarrassed when I dress up because I’m so self-conscious when people look at me! I like to stay more hidden and go unnoticed. How can I draw this other side of me out? Thanks Monica B!

    • Monica says:

      Hi Cajeta! Well shy kapha, did you ever think that they are looking at you because you are glowing and stunning? I’m willing to bet that’s absolutely true. It’s also totally common that it makes you uncomfortable because kaphas are shy and stray from the spotlight. They don’t like center stage. Maybe save your dress-up days for when you are with friends that make you feel good! That way you can shine-on in your goddess ways but they will provide a buffer. Once you are comfortable with that, maybe you will feel more confident in your nice duds, even while people look :)

  9. Mara says:

    There is a most awesome dog walker in my neighborhood and I have thought many times how nice and helpful for this Kapha it would be if he would kindly stop off and take me for a walk as well.

    Miss you, dear Monica.

    • Monica says:

      Oh, Mara. I miss you so much too. I love this little note. Maybe you can follow him…and be, “That lady who comes out of her house and follows 20 feet behind me when I walk the dogs.” :) Truly though, it would be nice to invite kaphas on a walk. Hear that vatas and pittas? Hm, another thought, maybe you need a little doggie?!?! :) xo.

  10. TMC says:

    You got me! Mac n’ cheese, tv, spending time alone… all true! I know I’m imbalanced since I’m overweight but I’m trying to use the principles of Ayurveda to get back into balance. Thanks for sharing your expertise, Monica!

  11. Susan says:

    Have you been spying on me? High salt foods. Watch a lot of TV and online games (facebook). Spend lots of time alone. collect things…couch potato…put myself dead last….get depressed… gain weight….Yikes!
    Time to back for some more PK!

  12. Linda says:

    Love it! This is so me but sometimes I get over peopled. I’m in customer service at the day job and belong to a few live social and networking groups. I enjoy my solitary walks and explorations to balance that out. I do smile and speak to people along the way.
    These social things with friends tend to be in the evenings going into Pitta and *ahem* sometimes into the wee morning Vata hours.
    Left to my own de-vices (see what I did there?) I fall asleep at 10pm. I quite often wish tea dances were popular. Thanks for the fun post. I laughed out loud at the freakin’ cheesecake reference and the collecting of things.

    • Linda Eaves says:

      Yep. Still a kapha! Spending a little bit of alone time this morning (coffee, laundry, chatting online) but planning on getting outside and hanging with friends today. Happy. Lots of hugs and smiles in my future.

  13. Cambrey says:

    I LOVE this! Thx, Monica.

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