A dosha match made in heaven

Match Made in Heaven. Ayurvedic heaven that is.

 A little match made in heaven: I received this email from one of my dear readers who was curious about inter-doshic relationships. Just as food, exercise and nature influence the doshas, people do to! Here is a sweet story about how a vata/pitta person and a kapha person form complete unity and balance each other. I’ve highlighted areas in orange italics to demonstrate why compliments attract :)

I’ve (vata/pitta) recently gained a very special friendship with someone who is pretty much kapha (everyone loves a kapha). She’s down-to-earth, happy, easygoing, curvy physique, etc. She’s all girly and about clothes and has perfect hair (kaphas love to look nice and have nice things). I’m older and a smaller person who prefers sportswear—I feel I’ve got my shoes covered because I have one pair brown and one pair black (pittas like comfy clothes and keep it simple so their mind can focus on more important things). So we walk along, rather quickly (vata/pitta making kapha move quickly – great!), and we talk about everything under the sun (talking and listening is therapy – tridoshic).

Her Kapha-like personality and my Vata/Pitta thing has made for a few interesting observations on my part. One day I was hovering in the ether, all anxious and stressed (vata problems) about something that, “wasn’t quite right” in my world. (vatas are the most intuitive) I was walking along, waving my arms, ranting and fussing (vata, vata, vata). She let it all play out and then just said something like, “People just sometimes don’t cooperate. Good thing we have you around to keep us all on track.” (kapha, always keeping the peace and giving an ego boost at the same time) Then gave me a big hug (kaphas give the best hugs), which, of course she is very good at, and I, of course, crave (vata is pacified by physical touch). I have to admit I chuckled to myself later when I recalled that episode (laughter is some amazing medicine – tridoshic).

This is proving to be a very great friendship for us, as she’s offered love and nurturing to me (kapha qualities), and I’ve been able to offer objective, realistic advice (pitta qualities) as well as keep her moving with regular exercise, and listen to stories of her past that she still grudges about (kaphas hold grudges if pushed far enough).

Thank you for sharing with us, dear reader! Sounds like a match made in Ayurvedic Heaven :) Anybody else have an example of someone who balances you? xoxo.

5 Responses to A dosha match made in heaven

  1. Shivani says:

    I am sorry to hear that too :(

    As for my story, my partner of 5 years and husband of 1.5 is a pitta-vata and I am a vata-pitta. He is warm, in body and at heart and in his balanced state, being with him is like sitting next to a fireplace, which of course I love, being an abnormally cold vata.

    Like all pittas he loves to offer up solutions but due to his intelligence, he is quick to realize when all I want is to be listened too and agreed with :-) “Vatas complain quite a bit right, because something or the other hurts” – to quote you, Monica :)

    He spends on the big luxuries that I don’t have the heart to buy (gadgets, tv, computers) and I spend on the small daily good stuff that his pitta may have considered trivial. So between the two of us we manage to have the good stuff. Wish we had some kapha saving sense too.

    He keeps me grounded because living with him, I follow a daily routine (the ayurvedic dinacharya). Which by myself I’d never do. I help him slow down and keep a check on him so that he doesn’t burn the candle at at both ends, which is his pitta tendency. I forget quickly, making me an easy person to be with and When in balance, I am light hearted and sometimes make him laugh. I try and keep his pitta down in little ways.

    He is very funny and is constantly making me laugh. When he is at work, his pitta is all up and running but with me he is the warmest goofball ever!!

  2. Anonymous says:

    I am sorry to hear that too :(

    As for my story, my partner of 5 years is a pitta-vata and I am a vata-pitta. He is warm, in body and at heart and in his balanced state, being with him is like sitting next to a fireplace, which of course I love, being an abnormally cold vata.

    Like all pittas he loves to offer up solutions but due to his intelligence, he is quick to realize when all I want is to be listened too and agreed with :-) “Vatas complain quite a bit right, because something or the other hurts” – to quote you, Monica :)

    He spends on the big luxuries that I don’t have the heart to buy (gadgets, tv, computers) and I spend on the small daily good stuff that his pitta may have considered trivial. So between the two of us we manage to have the good stuff. Wish we had some kapha saving sense too.

    He keeps me grounded because living with him, I follow a daily routine (the ayurvedic dinacharya). Which by myself I’d never do. I help him slow down and keep a check on him so that he doesn’t burn the candle at at both ends, which is his pitta tendency. I forget quickly, making me an easy person to be with and When in balance, I am light hearted and sometimes make him laugh. I try and keep his pitta down in little ways.
    He is very funny and is constantly making me laugh. When he is at work, his pitta is all up and running but with me he is the warmest goofball ever!!

  3. […] in a 900 sq ft apartment without many closets. Costco was not made for us. BUT my kapha husband was made for me, so I’ll just take this with humor and grace. Don’t think my pitta didn’t try to […]

  4. I love this, Monica! I am Vata/Pitta and my partner of eight years who passed away last year was pure, lovable Kapha. He used to call me his Energizer Bunny. He would beg me to sit still and watch a movie with him. :) He was a chef (no surprise, since Kaphas love to cook) and of course we Vatas love people cooking for us. He slowed me down, I sped him up! I miss my Kapha dearly…indeed, Vata/Pittas and Kaphas are a match made in Heaven!

    • Monica says:

      Ohhhh…Barbara :( I’m deeply sorry to hear about your sweet kapha partner. Many blessings to you. Thank you for sharing the wonderful story of how you two lived in harmony. He was a perfect balance for you <3 <3 <3. Sending love, Monica

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